Comments on: Reprint: Daddy Crushes and the longing for mentors http://www.hugoschwyzer.net/2009/07/15/reprint-daddy-crushes-and-the-longing-for-mentors/ Author, Speaker, Professor, Shattering Gender Myths Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:08:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Hugo Schwyzer http://www.hugoschwyzer.net/2009/07/15/reprint-daddy-crushes-and-the-longing-for-mentors/#comment-13643 Hugo Schwyzer Thu, 16 Jul 2009 14:35:29 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2009/07/15/reprint-daddy-crushes-and-the-longing-for-mentors/#comment-13643 Moomy crushes are very rare, but not unheard of; I've heard some stories from my female colleagues. My point about flirtatiousness was exactly that -- it's socialized, and that's why I don't take it as evidence of any real desirability on my part. It's a response to a society that doesn't take young women seriously unless they behave in certain prescribed ways. Moomy crushes are very rare, but not unheard of; I’ve heard some stories from my female colleagues.

My point about flirtatiousness was exactly that — it’s socialized, and that’s why I don’t take it as evidence of any real desirability on my part. It’s a response to a society that doesn’t take young women seriously unless they behave in certain prescribed ways.

]]> By: tara http://www.hugoschwyzer.net/2009/07/15/reprint-daddy-crushes-and-the-longing-for-mentors/#comment-13642 tara Thu, 16 Jul 2009 14:30:37 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2009/07/15/reprint-daddy-crushes-and-the-longing-for-mentors/#comment-13642 Do you think Daddy Crushes are dysfunctional in that they show a person's lack of a good father-figure, or do you think a person with a strong father-child relationship is equally prone to this longing? Also, do you think Mommy Crushes are just as likely? I strongly doubt narcissism is clouding your view here, but it is likely that women are socialized to be flirtatious (for lots of different reasons and possibly even unconsciously) and are therefore sending inaccurate signals. Do you think Daddy Crushes are dysfunctional in that they show a person’s lack of a good father-figure, or do you think a person with a strong father-child relationship is equally prone to this longing?

Also, do you think Mommy Crushes are just as likely?

I strongly doubt narcissism is clouding your view here, but it is likely that women are socialized to be flirtatious (for lots of different reasons and possibly even unconsciously) and are therefore sending inaccurate signals.

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