http://www.hugoschwyzer.net/2009/10/28/jendi-on-abuse-and-complementarianism/ Author, Speaker, Professor, Shattering Gender Myths Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:08:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.hugoschwyzer.net/2009/10/28/jendi-on-abuse-and-complementarianism/#comment-9431 kate h Sat, 31 Oct 2009 02:50:15 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2009/10/28/jendi-on-abuse-and-complementarianism/#comment-9431 I'm surprised that there aren't more comments on this post! My personal biggest beef with complimentarianism (aside from the whole Man is the head of the household and makes all the decisions) is the expectation that all men are good at the same things and that all women are good at the same things. My husband and I do compliment each other very well, I am great with details and paperwork, he can re-wire a switch and be the duty bad guy when necessary. I deal with money, he deals with the housekeeping. These splits have come about organically based on our strengths and weaknesses as individuals and as a couple. If we were forced into a cookie-cutter mold of what other people thought we should be doing, our marriage would not work. I’m surprised that there aren’t more comments on this post! My personal biggest beef with complimentarianism (aside from the whole Man is the head of the household and makes all the decisions) is the expectation that all men are good at the same things and that all women are good at the same things. My husband and I do compliment each other very well, I am great with details and paperwork, he can re-wire a switch and be the duty bad guy when necessary. I deal with money, he deals with the housekeeping. These splits have come about organically based on our strengths and weaknesses as individuals and as a couple. If we were forced into a cookie-cutter mold of what other people thought we should be doing, our marriage would not work.

]]> http://www.hugoschwyzer.net/2009/10/28/jendi-on-abuse-and-complementarianism/#comment-9430 Angiportus Fri, 30 Oct 2009 12:45:11 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2009/10/28/jendi-on-abuse-and-complementarianism/#comment-9430 A horrid litany it is, reminding me of nothing so much as the restrictions put on children--being uprooted from a place one loves and forced to live for years in an isolated, desolate land; not being able to get something one wants even when there is the money, not even being able to choose one's hair length. I can't imagine a sane person wanting to impose that on any innocent adult for life. I'm entirely with you on complementarianism. Let's help folks find out how to complement others in their own unique ways. A horrid litany it is, reminding me of nothing so much as the restrictions put on children–being uprooted from a place one loves and forced to live for years in an isolated, desolate land; not being able to get something one wants even when there is the money, not even being able to choose one’s hair length. I can’t imagine a sane person wanting to impose that on any innocent adult for life.
I’m entirely with you on complementarianism. Let’s help folks find out how to complement others in their own unique ways.

]]>