I’ve got a guest post up at Scarleteen today on Christian faith and pre-marital sex. Folks may also be interested in reading my three main posts on this subject:
“The battery that powers our livesâ€: more on sex, faith, justice
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And this may also be of interest:
I wonder whether an auxiliary point could be made that marriage need not be expensive. Traditionally, couples were married during the normal Sunday morning service, dressed in their Sunday best. A ‘pot luck’ supper at the Church Hall after the service completes a memorable day which celebrates the work of God and the vows made as part of a Christian community, more than the work of the dollar and the cash spent to make a show for friends and family.
Vincent, amen. Nothing is more exasperating than the “we want to be married, but we’re waiting until we can do it right” line. Waiting until you’re ready to marry (and I don’t think everyone is even called to marriage) is one thing — waiting until you can afford the wedding of your dreams is another.
I’m a simple gal…I had an inexpensive casual wedding..it was Hawaiian themed (since we couldn’t go to Hawaii)… it was great, little stress and no appearances of bridezilla!
When my ex-wife and I got married, we cast our stinginess as cultural snobbery – Episcopalians have finger sandwiches and champagne in the parish hall rather than vulgar and lavish extravaganzas that go all night.
Hugo, on the waiting on sex business – the way our priest explained it to us that to the extent marriage is a sacrament (in general terms, not dcotrinal) then it’s eternal, and as such, once you get maried, there really never was a time you weren’t, so how could sex be premarital?