Yesterday’s Pasadena City College Courier ran a story about a lecture I did for the Feminist Club and others on sex, consent, and enthusiasm (The audio is here). The online version of the article is here: Does the absence of a “no,” mean “yes?”. But check out the headline in the print edition: Can ‘No’ Mean ‘Yes’ in Sex? Maybe, Expert Says.
I’ve already had a nice apology from the editor, and a correction is coming in next week’s print edition, and they got the cyber version right. But it’s a whopper of a misprint, and it reminds me of how easy it is for folks to confuse these two simple words in their minds!
This just in: feminist professor and former bad boy Hugo Schwyzer says “No Means Yes,” validating fraternity bros, creepers, and rapists across the country. Joe Francis, founder of Mantra Films, Inc., which produces the Girls Gone Wild video series, praised the professor’s statement, “This is exactly what I’ve been saying for years. If girls didn’t want their tops removed for our cameras they wouldn’t dance in bars. That fact that she said ‘No’ is only further proof that she really meant ‘Yes.’” When reached for comment, Professor Schwyzer clarified his remarks. “When I said ‘No means Yes’ what I meant was in ordinary relationships. Of course many partners who practice BDSM use ‘No’ as their safe word so it doesn’t apply to those situations. It also doesn’t apply to men, just women. If a man says ‘No’ it’s not the same thing.”
Sounds like a Freudian slip to me.
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