Good Men — and MRAs

Today at Good Men Project Magazine, an issue devoted to covering the Men’s Rights Movement and Men’s Rights Activists (MRAs). Senior editor Henry Belanger, who catches my subject-verb agreement problems every week for my column, sets the tone in this piece. And we’ve got articles from staunch anti-feminist MRAs like Paul Elam and Zeta Male. I’m joined this week in presenting the other side by Amanda Marcotte, whom I’m thrilled to have as a guest at GMPM. Amanda’s post is sensibly titled The Solution to MRA Problems? More Feminism.

More articles tomorrow and throughout the week.

I learned from Henry that Dan Moore, the publisher of Menz Magazine, described me as “the Darth Vader of Men’s Issues” in a note to the Good Men Project. There’s something just so perfect about an MRA using a Star Wars reference! In any case, here’s my weekly column: How Men’s Rights Activists Get Feminism Wrong.

A happy International Women’s Day, Feminist Coming Out Day, and Shrove Tuesday to one and all.

Feminist Coming Out Day

I’ll have a permalink to my appearance today on Hay House Radio with Michelle Phillips when it becomes available. And if you, like me, are a Los Angeles resident and voting in tomorrow’s municipal election, you might take the excellent recommendations of the LA Progressive website.

Tomorrow is International Women’s Day, and it’s also Feminist Coming Out Day. Originally started at Harvard University in 2010, FCOD has gone nationwide this year. But of all the campuses doing official Feminist Coming Out Day projects, there’s only one two-year school formally participating: Pasadena City College. As an adviser to the college Feminist Club, I’m very proud of my students. I’m particularly proud that the club hosted an inspirational visit last month from Lena Chen, a Feminist Coming Out Day founder and celebrated columnist. Chen — who first emerged as a courageous sex blogger during her undergraduate years — is a marvelous role model to my students. We’re so pleased to be part of this extraordinary project she helped found.

I’ll be one of many panelists for a Feminist Coming Out Day Event tomorrow evening from 6-8PM in the Circadian Lounge in the Campus Center at PCC. The public is welcome, and you can check out our Facebook event page here. And if you twitter, use the hashtag #afeministlookslike.

Feminism isn’t just an ideology to me. It isn’t just what I “do” professionally, though I am blessed to make a living as a feminist professor and writer. Feminism is a movement for global and personal transformation, the single best vehicle for bringing about a more just and compassionate world that I have ever encountered. Feminism connected me to my humanity, reminded me that my biology was never my destiny nor my limitation. Feminism liberated me to see myself as a complete human being, and it forced me to do the hard but glorious work of growing up and taking full responsibility for my actions and my life.

After nearly twenty years of teaching women’s studies, I’ve watched how feminist scholarship and activism has empowered and reshaped the lives of countless students, men and women alike. I’ve watched in awe as young (and not so young) women found their voices, found their passion, found their anger and found their purpose in feminist work. I’ve watched with pride as young (and not so young) men have come to reconsider their relationships with mothers, sisters, wives and lovers as a result of beginning a feminist journey. I am convinced to my core that feminism is a force for political, social, sexual, economic and even spiritual liberation in the lives of men and women.

I am proud to call myself a feminist.

Old and new audio files on beauty and manhood

My wonderful student Mon-Shane Chou, who during our winter session helped bring Lena Chen to campus and is a key reason why we’re the only community college in the country to be an official part of Feminist Coming Out Day tomorrow, is the same great student who has faithfully recorded and posted online so many of my lectures.

Last fall, she taped my Beauty and the Body class. Here are two lectures that didn’t get uploaded until now:

The Impact of Advertising

Permissioning the Gaze

Mon-Shane is also in my Men and Masculinity class this semester, and has my first two lectures online:

Introduction to Homosociality

The Four Rules of American Manhood

Talking beauty on Hay House Radio

I’ll be on Hay House Radio today between 9:30-9:55AM PST talking with Michelle Phillips about beauty, perfectionism (and the Perfectly Unperfected Project) and ways we can begin to offer counter-stories about what is desirable to teens of both sexes. Click here and then look for the “listen now” link in the upper right hand corner. If you miss it, the archived show will be up next week.

Orthodox boys and baseball girls: triumphs all around

I’m a high school sports fan, and want to report two good pieces of news from L.A. prep circles.

Yesterday, for the first time in California history, two female starting pitchers faced off in a high school varsity baseball game. (One notes that no boy made up a story about religious objections in order to avoid the potential humiliation of being struck out “by a girl.” Joel Northrup, the 21st century is calling.)

And last night, Valley Torah became the first Orthodox Jewish boy’s school to win a California State Section title. In a game that tipped off just after Shabbat (and required fans and family to keep the Sabbath and read the Torah in an Anaheim hotel), the Wolfpack overcame some nervous moments to post a dramatic victory. Yosef Grundman, the son of my teacher in the Kabbalah Centre, sparked the team and led the way with 17 points. (One wonders about the scheduling difficulties should, say, Valley Torah ever play a Christian school whose players can’t compete on a Sunday.)

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Nice Guys Redux

There’s an old debate about “Nice Guys” in the blogosphere. Feminists often write the term Nice Guys® to note that we’re talking about a particular phenomenon: the introverted young (or not so young) man who longs to know why women won’t date him, but instead seem to prefer the company of “alpha male assholes.”

Back in December, Miguel at EmporiaSexus and I exchanged posts. He wrote three (Men Can’t Opt Out,Sexual Entitlement , and The Darker Side of Sexual Entitlement) and I responded here.

He has warmed once again to his familiar theme this week with Nice Guys. In a nuanced way that sets him apart from the more noisily embittered men’s rights activists who share many of his views, Miguel argues that shy and introverted “beta” men sense an undeniable disconnect between feminist rhetoric and women’s sexual choices. He earns a powerful rebuke from Amanda Marcotte and a gentler critique from April at Ethecofem. I recommend reading all three posts.

Miguel quotes me extensively in his Nice Guys post, and I stand by my remarks there. For more, see this June 2010 post of mine: “I’d be more nurturing if I thought it would get me laid”: how the straitjacket of masculinity is reframed as women’s fault.

Happy reading.

Comment update

I updated my WordPress last week and added in the Disqus commenting system. But it proved impossible to have Disqus and keep my old comment archives, so we removed Disqus today. My spam filter works better without Disqus. Recent posts are open for comments and discussion, and old comment archives are available as well.

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Why Boys Forfeit and more on student crushes

I’ve got a piece up at the Guardian today: When ‘Manning Up’ Involves Pushing Women Out. It’s my brief take on the risible Kay (blame feminists for everything) Hymowitz thesis that male slackerdom is rooted in female empowerment, and I touch on the real reasons behind the now-famous Iowa coed wrestling story involving a young man named Joel Northrup.

And the Colleges and Careers blog, which carried a story on me a few years back, quotes some of my pieces on student crushes in two stories today:

What Your College Professor Thinks About Your Crush On Them

What To Do If You’re Crushing On Your College Professor

My student crushes archive is here.

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Sex, Lies, and Exegesis: on Jennifer Knust’s Marvelous New Book

I’ve written quite a bit about Christianity and sex both here and elsewhere. I’ve made the case for a more inclusive and liberated ethic on Scriptural, spiritual, and psychological grounds. Folks who are curious about where they can learn more about a progressive — yet authentically Christian — sexual worldview often ask me for recommendations for further reading. And I now have a new text to add to the list I give: Unnprotected Texts: The Bible’s Surprising Contradictions about Sex and Desire, written by Jennifer Wright Knust, an American Baptist pastor and New Testament professor at Boston University.

Unprotected Texts (a clever pun) is the rarest of books: instantly accessible to the layperson, yet sufficiently scholarly to serve as an appropriate text for a graduate level theology course. In some 250 pages (not counting the extraordinarily extensive bibliography and footnotes), Knust examines the sweep and scope of both Old and New Testament writing on sexuality, sin and the elusive notion of purity. She’s created a refreshingly non-polemical work, managing to do what so few of us who write about sex and faith accomplish: avoid taking one side or another in the ongoing culture war.

Knust is writing for those of us who take the Bible seriously. If there’s a consistent charge thrown by theological conservatives against their liberal brethren, it’s that those of us who advocate for an inclusive sexual ethic don’t take a sufficiently rigorous or reverent approach to Scripture. Knust dismisses that charge, reminding her readers in the introduction that

…the Bible is not only contradictory but complex…biblical teachings regarding desire, marriage, and the human body are entirely inconsistent and yet thoroughly fascinating. The Bible does not offer a systematic set of teachings or a single sexual code, but it does reveal sometimes conflicting attempts on the part of people and groups to define sexual morality, and to do so in the name of God.

Knust’s summary of these “conflicting attempts” is dazzling; from Genesis to the Epistles, from the story of Noah’s nakedness and Lot’s daughters to Paul’s views on homosexual sex and marriage, she deftly explains that the “plain meaning” of these texts is not nearly so plain at all. For students of biblical criticism, it’s remarkable how well Knust uses multiple levels of interpretation (historical, grammatical, and yes, “reader response”) to explore complicated and influential passages. Along the way, Knust shares some remarkable stories from the Apocrypha and other non-canonical sources. (I had no idea, for example, that it was the Proto-Gospel of James that went so far as to claim that not only was Mary a virgin when she conceived Jesus, but that she never menstruated and that her hymen remained intact after the holy birth!)

Knust warns her readers, both right and left:

Whatever we wish for can be found somewhere in the Bible, which is why it is so important to admit we have wishes, whatever they may be. We are not passive recipients of what the Bible says, but active interpreters who make decisions about what we will believe and what we will affirm. Admitting that we have wishes, and that our wishes matter, is therefore the first step to developing an honest and faithful interpretation…. it is up to readers to decide what a biblically informed and faithful sexual morality might look like. (Emphasis mine.)

Our wishes matter, of course, because that’s part of how we were intended to relate to God and to Scripture. People of faith are always in multiple relationships: with God, with sacred texts, with the living and the dead interpreters of those texts. Every relationship is a two-way street, of course. Our desires and our hopes are at the very core of our identity, and to imagine that we can purge ourselves of them completely so that God can simply inscribe God’s will on the blank slate of our souls is a naive fantasy. The prophets and the scribes brought their agendas as we bring ours. It has always been so and will continue to be so, and to pretend otherwise is foolishness.

If you’re looking for a scholarly yet highly readable analysis of what the bible says — and far more importantly, doesn’t say — about everything from menstruation to homosexuality to virginity to marriage, Unprotected Texts is indispensable. A stirring rebuke to those who claim that the Bible speaks with unmistakable clarity on contemporary moral issues, Knust’s terrific new book will also serve as a tremendous source of comfort and inspiration to those who long for affirmation that the way in which they express love and desire is not contrary to God’s will.