We’re in Missoula, wrapping up a visit with my sister, nephew and brother-in-law in this splendid Montana college town.
My column at GMP this week: The Opposite of Man is Boy, Not Woman.
If we really are in a “man crisis” in America, I suspect it’s rooted as much as anything else in this fundamentally mistaken belief that manhood needs to be about rejecting anything that smacks of the feminine. With fewer and fewer all-male preserves left in our society, guys who cling to this outdated notion of what it means to perform masculinity will indeed feel themselves at a loss. But if we understand masculinity as something we choose to perform—and grasp that at its core, that performance is about distinguishing ourselves from immature boys rather than women—we can still find something pleasurable, meaningful, and redemptive in acting like “real men.”
Managing editor Lisa Hickey responds here.