Top Ten in 2011

Since 2005, I’ve shared my Top Ten Posts of the year each December. (Here’s 2010, 2009, 2008, 2007, and 2006.)

But I rarely post original content on this blog anymore, as so much of my work now (fortunately) appears elsewhere. So in no particular order, here are my ten favorite pieces I wrote this year. (And just FYI, here’s the one post I regret having written.)

Real Women Have… Bodies
Let’s Talk to Girls about Beauty, Too
The Cautery of Hate: on Breakups, Psychoanalysis, and the Healing Power of Rage
Men, Princess Culture, and the Sexualization of Young Girls
Spring is No Excuse for Sexual Harassment
The Male Body: Repulsive or Beautiful?
The Opposite of “Man” is “Boy,” Not “Woman”
Short Skirts Magically Turn Women into Bitches
What’s the Difference Between Privacy and Secrecy?
Some laughter with the lovemaking, please: on porn, performance, and deadly seriousness

4 thoughts on “Top Ten in 2011

  1. I just wanted to say about the article on the male body: excellent piece.

    I have long thought similarly (though I think the origins are more complicated then little boys being seen as “dirty”, then again I do not exactly have a better way to sum up the phenomenon quickly enough to be readable so I digress), but have not been sure if it was an “acceptable” thought that was ok to voice with other people. I have had girlfriends in the past compliment me and found myself being dismissive of it (even to go as far as to assume they were working an angle).

    What could possibly be best about this thought is that it implies that as a society we have women focusing on “managing” male desire, we have men as the only-and-always desirer, and so nobody is actually able to enjoy desiring and being desired. Women are stuck trying to regulate the desires of others and do not get to focus on their own. Men are stuck at always being the active agent (whether that is who they are or not) who must face a lot of the rejection. This outlines a (true) situation where both men and women should perceive a problem and be invested in solving it. It seems that in feminist writing, that is one of the most difficult things to articulate, but here it does come through.

    Have a Merry Christmas!

  2. I loved “Some Laughter With The Lovemaking.” And I’m with Rachel on the piece that you regret writing. The negative reactions to it baffled me.

  3. Thanks, everyone. I stand by that piece I wrote about the son who might — or might not — be mine. But it caused a lot of upset to people near to me, including something I hadn’t foreseen. While the actual people involved never to my knowledge discovered the piece, two different couples THOUGHT I was referring to them, and much tumult ensued. This then involved another blogger stoking that flame (Susan Walsh) and some innocent people getting very, very upset.

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