On Modesty and Male Weakness: “Pegging” and Feminism at Jezebel

I had two posts up at Jezebel this week:

Hot Girls in Tight Clothes Do Not Keep Boys From Learning Excerpt:

That modesty culture places an unreasonable burden on girls is undeniable. What gets missed is that it also sets men up for a lifetime of believing that they aren’t responsible for their own sexual urges. Boys don’t need to be protected from their own horniness (any attempt to provide that protection will end in failure), they need tools to learn to manage the intensely powerful feelings that they’re having. Teenage lust is a biological reality, but the socially-constructed assumption that it is only truly overwhelming for boys is destructive in two ways. It shames girls for being horny (because sexual desire is framed as exclusively masculine) and it teaches boys that they are at the mercy of urges they can’t be reasonable expected to control. What boys need, and aren’t getting, is the message that lust and learning aren’t mutually exclusive experiences.

If You Want a More Thoughtful Boyfriend, Try Pegging Him (Trigger Warning for, um, vulgar language) Excerpt:

The payoff for clearing those hurdles, Glickman says, is nothing less than the radical transformation of heterosexual sex. In 2011, Glickman wrote a column entitled “How Pegging Can Save the World,” arguing that no other erotic experience a man can undergo can create greater empathy with women than being penetrated by his partner. “For men who have never been on the receiving side of penetration, sex is something that happens outside the body. And when sex is external to your body, it can be easier to do when you have a headache or you’re not quite in the mood. A lot of men discover than when sex is about catching rather than pitching, their mood, their emotions, and their connection to a partner can often have a bigger influence on what they want to do and how it feels.” Men, Glickman and Emirzian suggest optimistically, will be a lot less likely to rush foreplay once they’ve experienced how long it takes to relax sufficiently in order to comfortably take a dildo (or other sex toy) in the ass.

For women, Glickman and Emirzian write, the experience of pegging a man can be equally revelatory, suggesting that “many women who use strap-on dildos discover how much work, responsibility, and (sometimes) power can be part of fucking someone.” It’s intellectually reckless to impose political meanings onto private acts, but it seems telling that in an “End of Men” era where exhausted and stressed-out women already are shouldering so much more “work” and “responsibility” than ever before, those burdens are extended — in a novel way — to the bedroom as well.

2 thoughts on “On Modesty and Male Weakness: “Pegging” and Feminism at Jezebel

  1. Hugo,

    With pegging, the woman wearing the strap-on does not feel sensation in the same way a man would in “normal” intercourse. It all strikes me as incomplete at best and an excuse to belittle men at worst.

    • Chuck, thats because you never found a girl that really enjoys pegging, there are some woman who simply LOVE being active and some that want specifically males to assfuck, Im glad to have found one, because I always had this fetish and its realization beat the expectations.

      You might not think its complete, but it sure gets me going and my gf too.

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